We had my in-laws up Sunday, Sept. 11th.
It was my mother-in-laws 82nd Birthday.
She, about 2 yrs ago, was told by her doctors that she is "legally" blind.
She says she can't see anything out of her left eye!
She has some vision in her right eye!
She has bleeding behind her "good" eye, sorry I can't remember what they call that. And that is actually what caused her to be blind in her left.
She went friday to get her license renewed.
She said she told them she was blind in one eye.
She said she had to look in that little box for her
peripheral vision test, and she could see.
So they gave her her license!
I can not believe it! You can look at her and see that she is blind or at least has some problem with that eyes!
I ask you to cover your left eye,
wave your fingers off to the side of that left eye,
and see if you can see them!
At dinner she was asking what different things were on her plate. Not because she'd never had them, but because she doesn't see well!
She's not able to read anymore!
She wears sunglasses to watch their flat screen TV!
At christmas time I was sitting not 6 ft across the room from her and she didn't even know I was in the room until I spoke to her. She is on all kinds of medications for other problems. She has a pacemaker, and yet, They Gave Her A License to get in her car and drive! She claims she only makes right hand turns. Which takes her way out of her way to get where she is going....because she can't see well enough to get where she is going. And yet, they gave her her license!
I think my husband's upset with me because I find this a bigger deal then he does! I just can't seem to stop shaking my head!
Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest! I just don't get it!
Oh bless her heart. I know that it has to be so difficult to loose privileges like driving. (even though she didn't) However, at her age and with her impairment, she is not safe on the road. I'm sure your husband would not want her to be injured or worse. Its hard to watch our parents age. I can understand where he wants her to still have her independence.
ReplyDeletePretty background!
It's a sticky wicket all the way to the point of her hurting herself or someone else, which is unacceptable. The trouble is that if she is not able to drive anymore, someone else is going to have to step up to the plate and help with getting her out and about. It's the kindest way to approach this situation by offering help and solutions. It's what we'll hope someone will be willing to do for us when it's our turn to give up a license. Compassion is going to be so important as you and your husband deal with this concern. It's not easy that's for sure. All the best to you.
ReplyDeleteLisa, you are doing everything you can to keep her and others safe, but you can't do it alone. I share your outrage. I do hope you'll feel better having written about it. This is my first visit to your blog but I'll definitely be back. Have a great day. Blessings...Mary
ReplyDeleteOh dear...I know how you must feel. It does sound crazy and it is the very thing that terrify's me. I am still out there on the road..but already one of my friends has lost her license and she is exactly my age and has been a friend since we were 14 years old. She is now 76 and I will be 75 in October.
ReplyDeleteI understand her need for her independence but to know my sweet little truck could be taken from me in just a few short years. It makes me feel ill.
Does she know she really should not be on the road? I HOPE I know when my time has come. It happens to all of us. ALL of us.
Hugs to you. You are a good daughter in law to be concerned. Be kind in this matter. But then I know you will be. I was so happy to see you..thanks for stopping by.
Mona