Do You Believe....

things happen for a reason?

I do!

Let me tell you why.

As you know, because it's on my mind all. the. time.!

My Mom passed away this past April.

Not a Day goes by that my thoughts would be on her and everything that happened during that time. To the point, at times, that I literally had to make myself shower and get dressed and function as I normally would, even though that is NOT what I really wanted to do. I really wanted to get everyone off to start their day and stay in my PJ's the rest of the day and do nothing. Maybe even just go back to bed. I don't think anyone in my family, meaning hubby and girls, realized that! I wouldn't say I was in any kind of depression, just a huge numbing sadness....unexplainable to anyone that hasn't lost a parent....

a Mom!

But....I had to function, because I have people that count on me everyday to help them function. Whether they realize it or not! As much as they try to be "grown-ups" and think they do not need me anymore....my cell phone rings ALOT some days.

Mostly from this girl....

She is high maintenance these days!

But, something that has helped me more then I remotely thought it would and I can't explain why except that things....

Happen For A Reason
Is this kid!

~Tom~
You may remember me posting about him. He's the exchange student from France that is staying with us for this school year. He is a wonderful addition to our family and is fitting in quite nicely. But, as ODD as it may sound and NO I haven't completely lost it, I believe he is here to help me thru this "first" year! He is no more work then my girls, less so really. But, my mind hasn't constantly been on the loss of my Mom. That's not too say I never think of her, because I do and always will. But, just not as much to where I am constantly,
daily in sadness. Ya know!
Yesterday, Mom's Birthday, could have been a much sadder day for me. I wasn't able to go to the cemetery as I planned. The weather was such that I chose not to drive that distance. But, coincidentally (and I knew this) Tom's Dad's Birthday was the same day as my Mom's. Tom was struggling a bit more then I, not being in France with his family for his Dad's birthday. He needed sometime away from school yesterday, just to Skype his Dad during the day. Because of the time change, they don't get to do that during the week.
Tom needed it....things happen for a reason!
My place was here yesterday to make something happen for Tom. Had I gone to the cemetery, I would not have been Home to pick him up for lunch so he could come Home and Skype with his Dad! I also, chose not to attend the evening meal with my sister's and my Dad to celebrate Mom's Birthday last night. Again, the distance and driving at night....
I don't do that if I don't have to!
It's a good thing because....

this daughter called me at about 3:45 p.m.!
I would have been gone by then....
again, Things Happen For A Reason! She had just been in an accident, rear ended and was actually the middle car of a 5 car accident! She, thankfully, was not hurt, but her car had to be towed away. She needed to be picked up, she was shaken up, but okay. The other 2 here at Home needed rides to hang with friends, both in opposite directions. I had to reach my hubby at work to pick up our daughter. Her car may or may not be fixable, or worth fixing. She now has her Dad's vehicle, he has mine....

I have nothing, to drive that is!

But, I do believe....
Things Happen For A Reason!
How about you?