Friday, October 29, 2010

Do You Believe....

things happen for a reason?
I do!
Let me tell you why.
As you know, because it's on my mind all. the. time.!
My Mom passed away this past April.
Not a Day goes by that my thoughts would be on her and everything that happened during that time. To the point, at times, that I literally had to make myself shower and get dressed and function as I normally would, even though that is NOT what I really wanted to do. I really wanted to get everyone off to start their day and stay in my PJ's the rest of the day and do nothing. Maybe even just go back to bed. I don't think anyone in my family, meaning hubby and girls, realized that! I wouldn't say I was in any kind of depression, just a huge numbing sadness....unexplainable to anyone that hasn't lost a parent....
a Mom!
But....I had to function, because I have people that count on me everyday to help them function. Whether they realize it or not! As much as they try to be "grown-ups" and think they do not need me cell phone rings ALOT some days.
Mostly from this girl....
She is high maintenance these days!
But, something that has helped me more then I remotely thought it would and I can't explain why except that things....
Happen For A Reason
Is this kid!

You may remember me posting about him. He's the exchange student from France that is staying with us for this school year. He is a wonderful addition to our family and is fitting in quite nicely. But, as ODD as it may sound and NO I haven't completely lost it, I believe he is here to help me thru this "first" year! He is no more work then my girls, less so really. But, my mind hasn't constantly been on the loss of my Mom. That's not too say I never think of her, because I do and always will. But, just not as much to where I am constantly,
daily in sadness. Ya know!
Yesterday, Mom's Birthday, could have been a much sadder day for me. I wasn't able to go to the cemetery as I planned. The weather was such that I chose not to drive that distance. But, coincidentally (and I knew this) Tom's Dad's Birthday was the same day as my Mom's. Tom was struggling a bit more then I, not being in France with his family for his Dad's birthday. He needed sometime away from school yesterday, just to Skype his Dad during the day. Because of the time change, they don't get to do that during the week.
Tom needed it....things happen for a reason!
My place was here yesterday to make something happen for Tom. Had I gone to the cemetery, I would not have been Home to pick him up for lunch so he could come Home and Skype with his Dad! I also, chose not to attend the evening meal with my sister's and my Dad to celebrate Mom's Birthday last night. Again, the distance and driving at night....
I don't do that if I don't have to!
It's a good thing because....

this daughter called me at about 3:45 p.m.!
I would have been gone by then....
again, Things Happen For A Reason! She had just been in an accident, rear ended and was actually the middle car of a 5 car accident! She, thankfully, was not hurt, but her car had to be towed away. She needed to be picked up, she was shaken up, but okay. The other 2 here at Home needed rides to hang with friends, both in opposite directions. I had to reach my hubby at work to pick up our daughter. Her car may or may not be fixable, or worth fixing. She now has her Dad's vehicle, he has mine....

I have nothing, to drive that is!

But, I do believe....
Things Happen For A Reason!
How about you?


  1. Lisa, so glad to see your precious girl was safe and sound. I SO AGREE with you about how things happen for a reason. God has a plan! (IMO)

  2. Yes Lisa I totally agree everything happens for a reason.
    God is in control and knows what you need and where you need to be and why!
    Have a blessed day dear friend!

    Hugz, Dolly

  3. most certainly what we often consider an inconvenience or a change of our plans is just God working out the dtails in His own plan!

  4. Oh, Lisa. My heart goes out to you. I know what you are going through. I was an only child, very close to my Mom, she lived with us and died 5 years ago, at 89. I still miss her terribly, even today. Please email me if you'd like to talk. We can commiserate on missing our Moms! Until then, take care, and know that your Mom is looking down on you and is with you all the time.

  5. Of course, I believe. DH and I speak often of the rare chance which brought us together, to mingle our families, and of our moving HERE, which was THE great contributing factor to two of our children's meeting THEIR spouses, and resulting in FOUR GRANDS we might have never been blessed with.

    And I also think that being NEEDED is a great part of being loved; I'm glad that your day was one of reflection and communication and joy, instead of sadness. And that wonderful network you have, all depending on and caring about each other---that's YOUR contributing factor, and a fine one it is.


  6. I wish I could just give you a big hug. I'm so sorry your mom is not with you anymore. I lost my dad in 2003 and losing a parent is such a hard thing. I believe that God is in control and things happen for a reason. I'm so glad your dd (darling daughter) is ok. I'm so glad you have Tom there. You are indeed blessed. When you look at your girls and yourself, you will 'see' glimpses of your mom, because she lives on through you and them. take care sweetie. Victoria S.

  7. {{Hugs}}} Having lost both of my parents I certainly understand where you're coming from Lisa...and yes, I do believe things happen for a reason.

  8. Girl I miss mine so much..I just need to talk. This is the first holidays single in 27 years. I have not one thing up and can't even get it down from the attic. no idea where i'll be I have been the rock so long. I just maybe in a cabin in the mountains =) God blesses us as we change.
    Love and hugs

  9. Hi, I'm new to your blog and I'm now a follower. I too lost my mom in October of 2010. Actually, in a few days it will be 2 years since she passed. I have had a very hard time with her not being here but the last few months I have felt better. I'm happy for you that you had your foreign exchange student. You needed him and he needed you! I don't find any coincidences in that. I would love for you to come visit me at Pinehurst Cottage. We are on a journey to find a vacation cottage and the renovation of it. I would love to have your input on helping us with the renovations. I hope you follow. ~Amy


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