Being married to an only child I was not sure of my role when something like this was to happen. I tried to just "be there" and support the decisions that were being made. The hardest part for me was seeing the emotions that my husband was experiencing and to see my FIL tear up over a memory that might come to mind. He loved her so and this
Just be there!
Seeing my girls go through another loss of a Grandma they loved so dearly, is very hard! Yet knowing their emotions are normal and healthy. I hurt for them, yet I am trying to be the strong one! I hurt for my husband, losing his mom so unexpectedly. When my mom passed I could not explain why I seemed to tear up so easily. I don't think one can explain. But if you've been through it you know. Unfortunately, he now knows!
Her service was yesterday. Although some of her wishes were overpowered by my husband and my FIL, I think she would be proud of how we as a family honored her! We were told by many how lovely the service was. We had our visitation Tuesday evening with many of their friends. She looked finally at peace! No more pain and worry, losing her eyesight and feeling as though she had to "depend" on people. Something that she would never be able to come to terms with! Her wish was to be cremated. After the service at the church she was taken away. Next we "see" her we will have another service to bury her ashes. Her wish will be honored!
Two of my children are having difficulty with this. My personal decision is not to be cremated, when my time comes. But I understand this is not how everyone believes. I tell my girls that this is what Grandma wanted and we have to honor that. It doesn't make it any easier. I hope one day they will come to understand that when our time comes, we can only hope that the decisions made will be done with respect for the person.
I think we did that!
So, to my MIL, I hope you are resting well and are finally at peace!
Love your daughter in law,